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Shrinks to Gosselins:  Try Divorce Counseling

June 25, 2009

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Such was the case with Washington, D.C., divorce lawyer Marjorie Just, 41, who sought counseling to cope with her own divorce eight years ago and today is remarried.

"In the aftermath of my separation and divorce it was incredibly healthy not only for venting, but also examining what I did to contribute to the relationship and what I was looking for in my marriage," she told

Just has been successful the second time around, even though 60 percent of all second marriages fail.

Divorce therapy can be difficult, but "some people are craving it," said Just, author of "Divorce Decisions."

"They don't want to be at war with the person who they loved and built a home with for years," she told "Not everyone is consumed by hatred by the end of the marriage."

She recommends counseling for all those going through a divorce, especially parents. "The marriage may be ending, but the relationship doesn't," Just said.

Today, the concept of divorce therapy has moved into the legal arena in a mediation process called "collaborative divorces."

All parties sign an agreement at the onset. The lawyers consent not to litigate against each other. They also agree that if the collaborative process fails, neither lawyer can represent them in court.

"The incentive for the clients is to have to come up with another retainer," Just said.  "The incentive for the lawyers is if they can't resolve it, they've lost a client."


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